How I Met My Mate

Sometimes at parties the women take turns telling how they met their mate. I would have to say, “I don’t remember.” Sounds bad doesn’t it, but I was about 5 years old. Give me a break!

The first memory I have of the boy that would someday be my husband is from first grade. I was laying on the couch in the school hallway waiting for my mom to pick me up. I had thrown up but I wasn’t really sick, even then my gag reflex was strong. He was walking in line with his class on the way to their room and the boys taunted me with cries of “sickie.” Now that’s the way to meet the future love of your life.

Pile that on top of the fact that he was a yucky boy and I really did not like him.

A year later we were both attending a small private academy. He was able to torture me further with spit balls, getting me out in rousing games of kickball, and narrowly beating me in the Bible reading competition. By 4th grade I had a crush on him; by 8th grade I hated him.

frisbeeWe both recall a time  in our early teen years when we called a truce on the animosity. My mom was working in the school office and I would wait for her to be done after school was out. He hung around and played Frisbee with me. Neither of us can remember how it got started. He would show up with a Frisbee after school and we would stand on each side of the field throwing it back and forth. We didn’t even speak 5 words to each other. It was just catch and throw, catch and throw. I didn’t want the other kids to know that I was playing Frisbee with him. When they found out, I quit.

On it went through high school and youth group. He hit me in the face with a mud ball; I pulled the plug dumping his supersoaker tank and drenching him. He would hold the door for me, but when I grudgingly said, “Thank you” he’d reply with, “You’re not welcome.” I perfected the art of ignoring his existence.  No one would have been able to call us friends.

So how did we ever get married? I’ll continue if you’re interested in hearing more.

The links for the rest of the story are on My Romance page.

Valentine’s Day Is Rapidly Approaching

Right now, we are driving and driving and driving and driving and you get the idea. So I decided to repost this list from February 9, 2008.  It’s not too early to start scheming.

How to Celebrate Valentine’s Day Cheaply

  1. Mail something to your sweetie. My husband always gets the mail so he would receive the letter/package. If you get the mail is there another place you could mail something? One friend e-mailed her husband a picture of her blowing a kiss. A good idea that her husband enjoyed.

  2. Make your own card or letter. It could be just a note, a thank you, or a small book. My reminder is to write something from your heart with your hand. E-mails don’t count this time.

  3. Have a relative or friend babysit. Ask someone that will be happy with a thank you or inexpensive gift. Maybe work out a babysitting exchange.

  4. Turn your dining room into a romantic restaurant alcove. Do a little or go all out. Cook, use take out, or order in. This would mean more if the husband would do it for the wife.
  5. Tell the world. Do you have a sidewalk? Sidewalk Chalk? Make graffiti. If you have an unfinished or soon-to-be-repainted wall this would work great! If you don’t have chalk, maybe a paper sign for your window or soap on the car window?
  6. Make a memory box. Instead of candy in a box use ticket stubs, poetry, little notes, photos, small mementos [like sea shells] that remind you of great times together. Wrap it up and give it to your other half. You could make an audio memory with a cassette tape or digital recorder. Include each of your favorite songs, a song from your wedding, etc.
  7. Hide and Seek. No, not the game. Hidden love notes. You could even make a special puzzle and hide the pieces. My father-in-law once mentioned this idea in a sermon and jokingly suggested a note in a sandwich. The next day he ate half his love note from my mother-in-law!
  8. Mysterious Outing. This is for the guys. Most women don’t mind well-planned surprises; Men don’t handle them as well. Leave her a message to meet or be ready at a certain time. Have a fun outing planned – don’t forget a babysitter! It doesn’t have to be night in a hotel. It could just be a walk, a bike ride, or some window shopping.
  9. Coupons. Not the ones in the Sunday Paper. Ones you make yourself. For back scratches, quality time, lunch, alone time for the busy mother, a chore completed, etc. Use your imagination.
  10. Have a Picnic. The food doesn’t have to be expensive. The picnic doesn’t even have to be outside. It might be much more fun inside anyways…
  11. Do it For Them. Does your heart throb love Monopoly and you hate it? Chances are it’s not been played in a while. Is your house Burger King vs. McDonalds? Poetry vs. Jules Verne? ESPN vs. Hallmark? Don’t just compromise. Cheerfully do one of their favorite [and your unfavorite] things.
  12. Read together. Fairy tales? Love poems? A classic? Science fiction? Financial planning? It’s not what you’re reading that’s most important.
  13. Make a list. Each of you could make a list of things that you think are romantic. Then put them on the calendar, and DO THEM!
  14. Pretend you just met. Remember when you could just sit and talk for hours? You didn’t sit and bemoan all the bad things going on, how the mortgage went up again, and the gas tank is empty. Make a list of conversation starters if you’re worried it will be a silent time. It might be helpful to NOT talk about the kids. Talk about your dreams, your goals, your past good times.
  15. Enlist a co-workers help. Do you know someone that works with your honey? Can you contact them without your honey knowing? Give the co-worker a stack of letters/small presents and ask them to deliver them throughout the day. Your honey will be pleasantly surprised by things appearing in their work area.
I’m just a tad worried about getting my chocolate this year because the day after is Sunday.  
We’ll be hosting our church’s Sweetheart Banquet on Feb 14.  Do you have plans for Valentine’s Day?  

My First Kiss

…was during my wedding ceremony. If I had it to do over I would do it the same way. Heart Clip Art

It was my Mr. Wonderful’s first kiss also.

To be totally truthful, our kisses are much better now after ten years of practice. ;)

As a young girl I was taught purity and chastity. I personally decided that I wanted to honor God and my future husband. I wanted to be completely, totally, without question worthy of a white wedding dress. If a bride is symbolic of the bride of Christ I wanted to be the best bride I could be.

When another girl asked me, teen to teen, “How do you know you like him if you never kissed him?” I actually laughed out loud.

Article about KissingHow does the pictured article relate? It was published in our church bulletin, as humor, in February 1993. That is my pastor’s writing up the left side: “For husbands & wives only.” I ripped it out [obviously] and saved the article that was originally from a magazine.

It would be 5 more years before I was married. When I first saved that small ripped paper I hated the teen who is now my Mr. Wonderful. At that point I just knew that someday, Lord willing, I would be a bride who would have her first kiss at the church altar; and later share this fun news with her spouse.

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Valentine’s Day related posts: Stressed? Hold Your Hubby’s Hand , Are You Preparing For Valentine’s Day? , Pucker Up! , Don’t Save the Date , How Can I Cheaply Celebrate Valentine’s Day? 

Pucker Up!

Love Bug from Snagit-online.com

Kissing is good for you. You knew that, right? How could it be bad after all? Well, maybe if the other person hasn’t brushed in a while…

Science now backs up that first statement. Like we needed science to approve it before we kissed!

Kissing helps keep your mouth and teeth healthy by activating saliva. Sounds gross, but it’s a good thing. Saliva cleans away food particles and helps your teeth enamel.

Kissing makes you feel good psy physcology physcologically in your brain, which transfers to better overall health. That must be partly why parents [mainly Mommies] can kiss away boo-boos.

Kissing helps you work better, helps your husband make more money, boosts your self-esteem, and burns calories.

I Thessalonians 5:26 Greet all the brethren with an holy kiss.

Just keep it holy y’all.

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I found some fun facts about kissing at Dating MatchMakers.com. [You know I'm not endorsing them.] Here are some of my favorites:

Do you know a study in 1997 out of Princeton University concluded that our brains are equipped with neurons that help us find our lovers lips in the dark. [I read about this in some book where it was jokingly called "Honeymoon Eyes."]

Do you know you burn 26 calories in a 1 minute kiss. [One minute is a kinda long kiss.]

Do you know matrimonial pollsters’ studies prove that a man who kisses his wife good-bye when he leaves for work every morning averages a higher income than does the fellow who doesn’t. [What if he kisses his wife and his 3 kids?]

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Valentine’s Day related posts: Stressed? Hold Your Hubby’s Hand , Are You Preparing For Valentine’s Day? , My First Kiss , Don’t Save the Date , How Can I Cheaply Celebrate Valentine’s Day? 

Show and Tell Friday – Rose Petals

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On my birthday in December of 1996 I received my first bouquet of roses. That day there were six petalspink sweetheart roses, mixed with baby’s breath, tied with a pink ribbon, put in a glass vase, and delivered to my door. The card said To You, From Me; and I knew right away who it was from.

It was a happy day! That bouquet selfishly stayed in my room until the petals fell from the stems. Even then I saved some of the petals. They now reside in a glass jar in my living room.

That’s my show and tell for this week. Click the Show & Tell graphic for more participants.

The guy who sent them to me? He’s my husband of nine and a half years.

P.S.  You can see a small picture of the bouquet in this post.